Thriving in Relationships — Five Tools for Success
Learning and honing skills for strengthening and repairing relationships of all types.
5-Week Online Workshop
January 22 – February 19, 2024
Relationships can be the most rewarding and most challenging aspects of our lives. Join us as we learn five key tools for improving all of our relationships, including with friends, family, co-workers, community members, and even ourselves.
We’ll learn how to use appreciation to experience gratitude and aliveness, use empathetic listening to be present when someone is expressing something that’s hard to hear, use honest expression to express needs in a way that’s easier for someone to hear, use needs-based negotiation to find strategies for meeting a group of people’s needs, and use relationship repair when a bump causes a disconnection.
These tools are based on the work of Marshall Rosenberg and Nonviolent Communication (NVC). If you are new to NVC, this workshop introduces key NVC concepts through practical application. If you are experienced with NVC, this workshop offers a refresher on NVC concepts and a chance to practice relationship skills in a supportive group environment.
Expect a clear explanation of each tool and why it works, exercises, supportive small group practice, and compassionate answers to your relationship questions.
Steve’s class has inspired me so much and given me the tools to unlearn the harmful habits of my culture while providing me with a clear path towards a self-responsible life where I get to honor my truth and have deeper intimacy with my loved ones. I really appreciate Steve’s authenticity, vulnerability, and presence and highly recommend his classes to anyone interested in living a more connected life.
Session 1: Gratitude and Appreciation
Gratitude is an internal state of thankfulness. Appreciation is the art and practice of expressing that gratitude. Marshall Rosenberg’s nickname for gratitude is “Giraffe Fuel for Life,” because he understood that giving and receiving of gratitude with a certain quality of presence was the greatest source of energy for living a compassionate life. When gratitude and appreciation are abundant in our lives, we experience more aliveness, fulfillment, and resilience in our relationships.
Session 2: Empathy
In NVC, empathy is the practice of putting attention on feelings and needs. Self-empathy is putting our attention on our own feelings and needs. Empathy for another person is putting our attention on their feelings and needs.
Empathy isn’t what we say, it is more a quality of presence. Empathy can be spoken or be silent, and is primarily an energy that comes through the eyes. Empathy is commonly misunderstood as sympathy, fixing, or consoling. When we are truly empathizing, we can connect deeply with another person, even if we disagree with the person’s perspective. It allows us to show our care for the other person without taking on their struggles as our own.
Session 3: Honest Expression
NVC is built on the belief that the most precious thing that one person can give another is that which is in their heart — feelings, needs, and requests. Honest expression is a vulnerable and powerful practice for creating and deepening relationships of mutuality and collaboration, while maintaining autonomy and integrity. Expressing ourselves honestly requires awareness of our intentions, the ability to make pure observations, expression of authentic feelings, connection to needs, and effective requests.
Session 4: Needs-based Negotiation
It is commonly understood in NVC that conflict is never between needs, rather it is between strategies. When working through a situation with two or more people, the goal is for everyone to fully express all of their feelings and needs. And at the same time, to receive sufficient empathy for what they have shared. When this happens, imagination and creativity are liberated so that optimal solutions arise.
Session 5: Relationship Repair
Relationship repair is the art and practice of tending to hurt feelings and unmet needs in order to heal from the pain of conflict and re-establish connection and trust. Each person expresses what they said and did that did not meet their own and other people’s needs. Likewise offering empathy to themself and each other for those unmet needs. When repair is successful, it helps us learn from our previous actions without self-judgment and thereby strengthening our relationships going forward.
Key Course Outcomes
- Experience more connection, fulfillment, and resilience in your relationships.
- Learn tools for having a life filled with gratitude.
- Learn effective ways for showing your appreciation for the people in your life.
- Learn how to show your care for someone else without taking on their struggles.
- Improve your self-care by putting your attention on your feelings and needs.
- Learn how to hear what someone really needs, even when they speak in words that are painful to hear.
- Learn how to make requests that are more likely to result in your needs being met.
- Learn how to deepen your relationships by sharing your feelings and needs.
- Practice developing optimal solutions when different people have different needs.
- Learn how to see the needs behind strategies so you can offer other strategies that meet more needs.
- Practice techniques for healing from the pain of conflict and re-establishing connection and trust.
- Learn from your previous actions without self-judgment.
- Learn how to strengthen relationships after a conflict.
Sliding Scale: $185 – $250
Sliding Scale Tuition
Because some people have more financial means than others, we have created a sliding scale fee system to accommodate a range of economic realities. The high-end of the scale reflects the value we believe the program holds, and the low-end offers a more accessible entry point.
By choosing a higher price point, you are helping make the program more accessible to others for whom the low-end may be cost-prohibitive. Please consider your needs and resources to determine what might be a stretch, but not a strain.
We offer 50% scholarships to black, indigenous, and people of color (BIPOC) who otherwise would not be able to afford to attend. We understand that BIPOC experience more financial and institutional barriers to participation, and this is one way we are able to create more access. If you identify as BIPOC and would like to receive a scholarship, please contact us at [email protected].
The sessions will be recorded. Please note that if you choose to ask a question or make a comment on camera during the call, you will be included in the recording. You are welcome to use a pseudonym and/or keep your video off if you have privacy concerns.
This recording is shared with all registered participants within 48 hours of the session and may also be used in future online learning programs.
It’s not possible through words alone to express the depth of my gratitude for everything you do and the way in which you do it. I count myself lucky for having met you and had the opportunity to learn and laugh and cry and grow with you and the other people I’ve been in classes with over these past two years. My life and the lives of so many are enriched by your openness and care in sharing your journey and evolution. So, thanks and thanks and thanks.
About the Instructor
Compassion Camp Co-Director and Nonviolent Communication Faculty As a lifelong peace, justice, and ecology educator and activist with over 40 years of community living, Steve has sought to integrate personal and social transformation in his own life, in the communities where he lives, and in the larger society. His passion for integral living and thinking has led him to study and experiment with a wide range of spiritualities, psychological systems, and social theories as they relate to creating a more just and sustainable world.
Compassion Camp Co-Director and Nonviolent Communication Faculty
As a lifelong peace, justice, and ecology educator and activist with over 40 years of community living, Steve has sought to integrate personal and social transformation in his own life, in the communities where he lives, and in the larger society. His passion for integral living and thinking has led him to study and experiment with a wide range of spiritualities, psychological systems, and social theories as they relate to creating a more just and sustainable world.
The Deep Dive Experience
Interactive Two-Hour Sessions
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Learn in a dynamic setting with presentations, group discussion, small group activities, and question and answer sessions.
Share Your Journey
Journey with others on the same path, share experiences, and make connections
Learn from those ahead of you and share with those just getting started. Hear answers to the questions you haven’t thought of yet and learn about the path ahead.
Tools For Your Future
Worksheets and reference materials meet you where you are.
And you always have access to the recordings, worksheets, and reference materials for another source of inspiration.