February 8 – March 29, Eight Mondays at 7 pm Eastern Time, with bonus session April 5.

Resources

Course notebook:

https://www.schoolofintegratedliving.org/wp-content/uploads/Compassionate-Communication-in-Community-Notebook-v2.7.21.pdf

NVC book:

https://www.schoolofintegratedliving.org/wp-content/uploads/NVC-Language-of-Life-MBR-3rd-ed.pdf

New Four Universal Addictions handout:

https://www.schoolofintegratedliving.org/wp-content/uploads/NEW-4-Universal-Addictions-v4.28.18.docx

Bonus session

Recording

Week 8

Homework

  • Catch up on any homework you missed.
  • If you would like to practice anything in particular, let Steve know at steve@therealcenter.org so he can prepare an exercise.
  • Create a gratitude list – 10 things each day you’re grateful for. Of that list, choose one person you will share a gratitude with, ideally in street giraffe unless they’re an NVC geek. For inspiration, see page 160, which has 150 often overlooked blessings.

Recording

Week 7

Homework

Words That Liberate

The movie referenced in the class is about the use of NVC in prison is “Words That Liberate” https://nvctraining.com/media/_2021/NVCA/Words-that-Liberate/index.html

You will need to register and then the film is available in the recordings.

Homework is on page 135

Reading

Read the handouts:

  • ”From Anger to Transformation”
  • “Screaming in Giraffe”
  • “Screaming in Giraffe: Alan Seid”
  • “Anger’s Two Kinds of Reactivity”

Read Chapters 9, 13, and 14 in Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life.

  • 9- “Connecting Compassionately With Ourselves”
  • 13- “Liberating Ourselves and Counseling Others”
  • 14- “Expressing Appreciation in Nonviolent Communication”

Recording

Week 6

Homework

Reading

Handouts:

  • “Guidelines for Giving Empathy”
  • ”Empathy: Ways We Stay Connected to Feelings and Needs”
  • ”Empathy Without Words”
  • “The Power of Silent Empathy When Words Don’t Work”
  • “Self-Empathy Fundamentals”

Chapter 10 in Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: “Expressing Anger Fully”

Partner Exercises

Recording

Week 5

Homework

Homework is on page 105 in the class notebook

Read the handouts

  • ”What Keeps Me From Making a Request”
  • ”Don’t Criticize Me vs. Doable Requests”
  • “When Every Request is a Demand”
  • “Let’s Make Our Life Together More Wonderful”

Read chapters 7 and 8 in The NVC Book

  • 7 “Receiving Empathically”
  • 8 “The Power of Empathy”

Watch Video: Part 4 of the NVC basics DVD: “Questions and Expressing & Receiving Gratitude” Time marker 2:23:25-3:05:57 on the YouTube version.

Recording

Week 4

Homework

Page 92 – The homework includes

  • Reading the handout, ”Information in Celebration.”
  • Chapter 6 in Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: “Requesting That Which Would Enrich Life”
  • Watch Video: Part 3 of the NVC basics video: “Empathicall Hearing Others” Time marker 1:30:41- 2:23:20 on YouTube version.
  • Do the partner exercise

Recording

Week 3

Homework

  • Page 86 – Homework, includes readings, video, and exercises
  • Page 80 – Read Risk the Dreaded Experience
  • Page 82 – Read The Fear of Feeling or Feelings
  • Page 84 – Read The Quick Coherence Technique
  • Page 76 – Read Alarm Feelings – Anger, Guilt, Shame, & Depression

Recording

Week 2

Homework

  • Do page 71, including reading chapter 4 in the book and the two partner exercises
  • If you haven’t already, do last week’s homework, especially watch 0-47:16 of the video and the “Take in the good” handout on page 57

Recording

Week 1

Homework

All page references are to the course notebook.

  • Communication that blocks compassion exercises on page 66, starting in the middle of the page.
  • Watch “NVC Marshall Rosenberg – San Francisco Workshop https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l7TONauJGfc
  • Complete the Gratitude Exercises on page 156 and consider starting a daily gratitude practice
  • Read “Take in the Good” on page 57
  • Look at “Steve’s Fabulous Friend Fest” on page 175
  • Read “150 Overlooked Blessings” on page 160
  • Read “Take in the good!” on page 57 and consider creating a velcro appreciation journal by writing down your appreciations for the people around to. Refer to this journal when they do something that you don’t appreciate so that you can regain appreciation for them.

Instructor

Compassionate Communication instructor Steve Torma

Steve Torma

Compassion Camp Co-Director and Non-Violent Communication Faculty

As a lifelong peace, justice, and ecology educator and activist with over 40 years of community living, Steve has sought to integrate personal and social transformation in his own life, in the communities in which he lives, and in the larger society. His passion for integral living and thinking has led him to study and experiment with a wide range of spiritualities, psychological systems, and social theories as they relate to creating a more just and sustainable world.

This course does not have any sections.